[If that had been his problem he definitely wouldn't want to share it with Asher now. He has no place being upset next to someone who was friends with him.]
I know some not great things about the guy he was seeing. Obviously I'm not going to say anything to him about them now. He still deserves the chance to mourn. But I think I need to talk to Achilles because he wasn't being fair to him and he needs to know that.
Somehow, drama always seems to trace its way back to that jackass.]
Yeah, well.
Take a seat.
[He can't say he understands his feelings regarding the mourning Achaean. One on hand, the guy is a teammate who is stuck in the midst of an incredibly unfortunate situation, and whatever differences he and Asher have pale in comparison to the task at hand.
Still, it's felt kind of weird helping a man who once looked at him as if he were less than dirt, and ensuring that he is fed and clothed and alive, despite his melodramatic desire to be none of these things.
Somewhere, deep down, Asher is sure that Achilles would have never done anything of the sort for him.]
Whatever you know can't be half as bad as what I do, so.
[Well, that isn't promising. Maybe Asher knows about this stuff already. Maybe Achilles has been with other guys he's gone further with and everyone already knows but him.]
I was kind of seeing him for a few weeks.
It was super casual. It didn't go anywhere.
I was too nervous to ask him out properly because he's so far above my league already and I figured if he was from here it's not like it could go anywhere anyway.
He really cooled off when we found out when we were both Audentes.
I couldn't figure out why because that seemed like it should have been a good thing for us, but I guess he was scared his boyfriend would find out he was hitting on guys behind his back.
[He lets out a long, loud sigh as he reads through all of this. If they were having a real conversation, his tone would be dry, almost like a police officer asking routine questions.]
Everybody who's asked for that sorta special treatment from me has been a girl so it's not just dudes who pull that crap and! idk
Let's say you're at a club and you're dancin' with somebody kinda cute! He/she/WHATEVER whispers in your ear, tellin' you do a little somethin' somethin', and you do! Maybe you make out or dance for a little while and hit bank, or maybe you don't! Sometimes it just doesn't happen.
It different for everybody, bro. Maybe he was just havin' fun.
[Achilles doesn't really strike Asher as a plan for the future kind of guy. He's very much in the moment all the time.]
Still, I think I get whatchu mean. It's weird.
You thought you had a little fire goin' there and turns out he was seein' somebody else. That's why you're buggin', right?
You asked about me though. I can't tell you about experiences I haven't had. I'm gay. I go to places where I'm likely to meet other gay guys. It shouldn't be a surprise that the vast majority of people who have hit on me are men.
The kind of situation you're giving me here isn't about getting free samples. It's about flirting with someone and seeing if you hit it off. Even if you don't make it past dancing or making out or whatever when it starts out there's hope there things will work out.
You shouldn't be feeling someone up just for fun, especially not if you're already in a relationship. It's misleading and it's hurtful for the other person when they realize you were just doing it to objectify them and not because you wanted to be with them.
But that isn't the point.
I know you think I'm misinterpreting things, but that wasn't what happened with us. If he didn't want to have something together he wouldn't have wanted us to see each other again.
[That's a lot to process, but Asher does take the time to do so.
This is the clearest Oliver has really ever been with him, and that's progress. There's a lot more that needs to be said here, and perhaps an apology that's required on his end, but maybe they should take things one step at a time.
It's obvious that this has been bothering the other man for quite a while, now.]
So, he hurt you.
[That much he can understand. The feeling of wanting more being met by rejection... It's horrible.]
Thanks, but it's OK. It's better I figured this out now than later on.
I just don't know how I'm supposed to confront him about this right after the guy he's been cheating on died.
He needs to know what he was doing was wrong, but it seems kind of harsh to do it after something so terrible has happened.
[If Asher knows he's done this before it seems even more important to drive home that it's not okay, but it does make him lose some hope he'll show any remorse in that respect. If he's been repeating it with Oliver it doesn't exactly say much for any apologies he must have had to make before.]
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[Does he feel sad? Of course. Asher isn't used to having many friends in general, and he's already an overly emotional person by default.
He didn't cry, though.
He has yet to shed even one tear.]
I'm handling it.
[Barely.]
Is that what this is about?
'Cause I get it. This shit's scary as hell, dawg.
I feel that.
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I mean, yeah, it's scary, but it's not that.
[If that had been his problem he definitely wouldn't want to share it with Asher now. He has no place being upset next to someone who was friends with him.]
I know some not great things about the guy he was seeing.
Obviously I'm not going to say anything to him about them now.
He still deserves the chance to mourn.
But I think I need to talk to Achilles because he wasn't being fair to him and he needs to know that.
[Why is it so hard not to be vague...]
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Somehow, drama always seems to trace its way back to that jackass.]
Yeah, well.
Take a seat.
[He can't say he understands his feelings regarding the mourning Achaean. One on hand, the guy is a teammate who is stuck in the midst of an incredibly unfortunate situation, and whatever differences he and Asher have pale in comparison to the task at hand.
Still, it's felt kind of weird helping a man who once looked at him as if he were less than dirt, and ensuring that he is fed and clothed and alive, despite his melodramatic desire to be none of these things.
Somewhere, deep down, Asher is sure that Achilles would have never done anything of the sort for him.]
Whatever you know can't be half as bad as what I do, so.
Shoot.
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I was kind of seeing him for a few weeks.
It was super casual. It didn't go anywhere.
I was too nervous to ask him out properly because he's so far above my league already and I figured if he was from here it's not like it could go anywhere anyway.
He really cooled off when we found out when we were both Audentes.
I couldn't figure out why because that seemed like it should have been a good thing for us, but I guess he was scared his boyfriend would find out he was hitting on guys behind his back.
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Did you two do anything?
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We just flirted.
We kind of had dates? But not like date dates.
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[wow u can already see how far he's come from s1 asher rip]
And two, this isn't the first time he's pulled this shit.
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Maybe it wasn't dating, but it was something.
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[GIVE HIM A MINUTE-]
Did he just hit one cheek or two-
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Why is that even important to you?
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You don't slap someone's ass unless you want to sleep with them.
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[cue a gross fratty eyebugging gesture]
sometimes u just wanna see it bounce back T B H
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[No, please don't tell him what you mean-]
sometimes u just want a free sample without havin 2 buy the whole slab of meat
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So you've never had someone ask you for that kinda thing? 'Cause it happens. Some people are just into different stuff! Don't be a hater.
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I'm not that desperate.
There's no way asking someone if you can try before you buy has ever done anything but make whoever you're hitting on hate you on the spot.
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Everybody who's asked for that sorta special treatment from me has been a girl so it's not just dudes who pull that crap and! idk
Let's say you're at a club and you're dancin' with somebody kinda cute! He/she/WHATEVER whispers in your ear, tellin' you do a little somethin' somethin', and you do! Maybe you make out or dance for a little while and hit bank, or maybe you don't! Sometimes it just doesn't happen.
It different for everybody, bro. Maybe he was just havin' fun.
[Achilles doesn't really strike Asher as a plan for the future kind of guy. He's very much in the moment all the time.]
Still, I think I get whatchu mean. It's weird.
You thought you had a little fire goin' there and turns out he was seein' somebody else. That's why you're buggin', right?
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The kind of situation you're giving me here isn't about getting free samples. It's about flirting with someone and seeing if you hit it off. Even if you don't make it past dancing or making out or whatever when it starts out there's hope there things will work out.
You shouldn't be feeling someone up just for fun, especially not if you're already in a relationship. It's misleading and it's hurtful for the other person when they realize you were just doing it to objectify them and not because you wanted to be with them.
But that isn't the point.
I know you think I'm misinterpreting things, but that wasn't what happened with us. If he didn't want to have something together he wouldn't have wanted us to see each other again.
So yeah. That's been bothering me.
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This is the clearest Oliver has really ever been with him, and that's progress. There's a lot more that needs to be said here, and perhaps an apology that's required on his end, but maybe they should take things one step at a time.
It's obvious that this has been bothering the other man for quite a while, now.]
So, he hurt you.
[That much he can understand. The feeling of wanting more being met by rejection... It's horrible.]
Dude, I'm sorry.
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I just don't know how I'm supposed to confront him about this right after the guy he's been cheating on died.
He needs to know what he was doing was wrong, but it seems kind of harsh to do it after something so terrible has happened.
[If Asher knows he's done this before it seems even more important to drive home that it's not okay, but it does make him lose some hope he'll show any remorse in that respect. If he's been repeating it with Oliver it doesn't exactly say much for any apologies he must have had to make before.]
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