moneyballer: by yaylikeawon @ plurk (41)
asher fuckboy millstone ([personal profile] moneyballer) wrote2016-08-01 12:04 pm

IC CONTACT;

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[personal profile] catphishing 2017-03-17 07:15 pm (UTC)(link)
No.
I mean, yeah, it's scary, but it's not that.


[If that had been his problem he definitely wouldn't want to share it with Asher now. He has no place being upset next to someone who was friends with him.]

I know some not great things about the guy he was seeing.
Obviously I'm not going to say anything to him about them now.
He still deserves the chance to mourn.
But I think I need to talk to Achilles because he wasn't being fair to him and he needs to know that.


[Why is it so hard not to be vague...]
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[personal profile] catphishing 2017-03-17 08:11 pm (UTC)(link)
[Well, that isn't promising. Maybe Asher knows about this stuff already. Maybe Achilles has been with other guys he's gone further with and everyone already knows but him.]

I was kind of seeing him for a few weeks.

It was super casual. It didn't go anywhere.

I was too nervous to ask him out properly because he's so far above my league already and I figured if he was from here it's not like it could go anywhere anyway.

He really cooled off when we found out when we were both Audentes.

I couldn't figure out why because that seemed like it should have been a good thing for us, but I guess he was scared his boyfriend would find out he was hitting on guys behind his back.
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[personal profile] catphishing 2017-03-17 08:26 pm (UTC)(link)
No.

We just flirted.

We kind of had dates? But not like date dates.
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[personal profile] catphishing 2017-03-17 08:39 pm (UTC)(link)
He slapped my ass and we planned out when to see each other again.

Maybe it wasn't dating, but it was something.
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[personal profile] catphishing 2017-03-17 09:27 pm (UTC)(link)
1) No. It was very intentional. 2) That's none of your business.

Why is that even important to you?
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[personal profile] catphishing 2017-03-17 09:36 pm (UTC)(link)
That's not true.

You don't slap someone's ass unless you want to sleep with them.
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[personal profile] catphishing 2017-03-17 09:43 pm (UTC)(link)
That sounds more like harassment.
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[personal profile] catphishing 2017-03-17 09:47 pm (UTC)(link)
Why would anyone have consented to that unless they were already dating?
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[personal profile] catphishing 2017-03-17 10:00 pm (UTC)(link)
That's gross, and I still don't see the part where that's consensual.
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[personal profile] catphishing 2017-03-17 10:11 pm (UTC)(link)
Any guy who's ever asked something like that hasn't got what they were hoping for.

I'm not that desperate.

There's no way asking someone if you can try before you buy has ever done anything but make whoever you're hitting on hate you on the spot.
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[personal profile] catphishing 2017-03-17 10:53 pm (UTC)(link)
You asked about me though. I can't tell you about experiences I haven't had. I'm gay. I go to places where I'm likely to meet other gay guys. It shouldn't be a surprise that the vast majority of people who have hit on me are men.

The kind of situation you're giving me here isn't about getting free samples. It's about flirting with someone and seeing if you hit it off. Even if you don't make it past dancing or making out or whatever when it starts out there's hope there things will work out.

You shouldn't be feeling someone up just for fun, especially not if you're already in a relationship. It's misleading and it's hurtful for the other person when they realize you were just doing it to objectify them and not because you wanted to be with them.

But that isn't the point.

I know you think I'm misinterpreting things, but that wasn't what happened with us. If he didn't want to have something together he wouldn't have wanted us to see each other again.

So yeah. That's been bothering me.
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[personal profile] catphishing 2017-03-17 11:22 pm (UTC)(link)
Thanks, but it's OK. It's better I figured this out now than later on.

I just don't know how I'm supposed to confront him about this right after the guy he's been cheating on died.

He needs to know what he was doing was wrong, but it seems kind of harsh to do it after something so terrible has happened.


[If Asher knows he's done this before it seems even more important to drive home that it's not okay, but it does make him lose some hope he'll show any remorse in that respect. If he's been repeating it with Oliver it doesn't exactly say much for any apologies he must have had to make before.]

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